Who is a Man? What needs to be said!

wife_beats_husbandWho is a Man?

Man is a creation of God who learns sacrifice and compromise right from his childhood:
– He sacrifices his chocolate/candy for his sister.
– He sacrifices his dreams by choosing a career path to satisfy his parents.
– He spends all his pocket money to buy gift for his girlfriend.
– He spends all his youth earning for his wife and children.
– He takes out a loan to create a future for himself and spends the rest of his life paying back the loan.
– He spends the rest of his life being reprimanded by his wife, mother and his boss.
– All his life, his wife, mother, mother-in-law and his boss try to control him.
– All his life is spent for others.

And the poor man:
– if he raises his hand against his wife, he is labeled shameless, wife beater, etc
– if he takes wife’s abuse, he is labeled timid.
– if he sees his wife with another man and inquires, he is labeled doubting.
– if he keeps quite, he is labeled coward.
– if he stays out of home mostly, he is labeled tramp, a vagabond.
– if he stays at home, he is labeled worthless.
– if he scolds his children, he is labeled cruel.
– if he does not, he is labeled negligent or careless.
– if he stops his wife from taking a job, he is labeled male-chauvinist.
– if he lets his wife take up a job, he is labeled as useless, dependent on his wife’s income.
– if he obeys his mother, he is labeled mother’s boy.
– if he obeys to his wife, he is labeled henpecked-husband.

Despite spending most of his life in sacrifice, compromise and struggle, he does not want anything for himself.

Not to mention that in most countries the law is biased towards women, and there is no law to protect men against domestic violence and abuse by women.

Man – He may be a male, a son, a brother, a boy-friend, a father, a husband and/or a son-in-law, but his life is usually filled with challenges and struggles. That is why, always respect a man.

It’s time Men clear their position and get the respect they deserve.



anthneeh gomes


Is gender equality really a pseudo-concept?

Just like the properties, behavior and purpose of fire is quite different from that of water, the properties, behavior and purpose of men and women are quite different from each other in this creation. Looking at the big picture, just like everything else, each was created to serve a purpose, hence have different properties to serve that purpose and is designed to behave complimentary to each other, once again to serve the greater purpose. However big or small, there is no equality between any two things in this creation. Each has its own distinct and important place in the universe, however different their roles may be. Why then do we ignorantly talk about equality between two different creations? How can we ever equate fire and water? How then can we even talk about equality of men and women? Wouldn’t that be a pseudo-concept?

Universe will be thrown into a chaos if water were to get envious of or feel inferior to fire and start behaving like fire, just to prove its equality. The same is true with any element or creation. If any one creation-of-the-universe, under the influence of diabolical and deceptive ignorance decides to compete with another creation-of-the-universe, attempting to behave like and prove that they can do what the other can, only chaos results. The same is true of men and women.

If the argument about gender equality is that of one gender being mistreated by another, which the feminists do, then one has to remember very profoundly that “it takes two to tango”. “It takes two hands to clap”, no matter which relationship is involved, and it takes both side to make or break things.

If there is to be a genuine equality of gender, why have hypocritical double standards? Why only the kind that applies to the benefit of one gender, usually women. For instance men at work carry their own boxes, the women ask him to carry it for them because she is a woman. When conflict happens society will usually take the woman’s side for believing she is right. Women want men to play traditional roles, while they want to benefit from the new age. Women want to be equal, but a man is still expected to put her first. Women want to lash out against men, but expect men to be sensitive. It is usually women who decide what is equal or not. The result is that equality is only applied where it suits and benefits them. When women don’t want to be equal then they are quick to neglect that out of focus, or find a reason to justify inequality.

If there is to be a genuine equality of gender, why have hypocritical double standards? Why do we not let women also play fair and fight and get blown up in wars. When lives are to be saved, why are women and children first? When the titanic sank, why were the lifeboats given first to women and children and let hundreds of men drown? Why doesn’t the government sponsor men’s right organization? Just like women’s rights day, why isn’t there a men’s rights day? If women are really so much against pornography, why are the porn stars women? The list is endless.

Gender equality is a pseudo-concept. Men and women have their place in the creation. it is only modernizations that has waged them against each other. Hence the chaos in modern society.

Hey, happiness comes from within and each is responsible for his/her own happiness, nobody owes no one anything. No men or woman are the slaves to one or the other. If men or woman want to really start living as equals, then they’d better start considering “respect” and actually act like equals and take care of themselves.